The Gray-Hair Factor and Age Discrimination

Feb 1, 09 • blogging28 CommentsRead More »

Everyone is always talking about gender and race discrimination. However, the worst discrimination going on is AGE DISCRIMINATION. Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve had to deal with this type of discrimination in stores, at work, and anywhere else you can think of. It baffles me when I enter a store, and no one greets me, while the gray-haired person behind me, gets two Sales Associates saying hello to him/her right away.

I was at a furniture store called Haverty in Woodbridge, VA where it just occurred. I had on sweats and no makeup. Last night, I went to the restaurant and the girl thought I was 18, so you get an idea as to what age these associates probably thought I was. An old couple was right behind us, and they were greeted and attended right away. After looking around and noting which pieces I was going to buy, I looked around at the people just lounging around. They stared me right in the eye and looked away. One particular guy got up right away when this gray-haired man appeared.

I called the Manager after this incident, and he sarcastically told me there was no such thing because the employees are of all races and creed. I told him that instead of patronizing me, he should teach his employees to greet and attend everyone, and that I will go to the Fairfax one instead. Additionally, my family has bought tons of furniture from Haverty, including me, for me to have been treated in this manner. He sounded shocked and then he started apologizing. I told my mother about it, and we both realized that when I bought the furniture last time, she was with me. Hmmm…coincidence? I think not.

This has got to stop. You would think that these people would know that young people probably make more money than the older people that they are giving their utmost attention to. At work or in business? Everyone knows you are only taken seriously if you fit the “Gray-Haired Factor.”

Once I went on an interview at Unisys for a Sr. Technical Writer position. On the phone, they were saying that my extensive experience would be a great asset to them. When they saw me in person, it was a different story. The man kept referring to my age and how young I was. He proceeded to insult me by saying that I should just go for a Jr. Technical Writer position. I have almost ten years professional experience and you are telling me that I should be a junior Writer? I should have said something right there and then, but I was so shocked that I couldn’t even think straight. At my current position, I was on a short-term contract where I was in a group of ten Technical Writers who were all older and gray, and I was the only one that got chosen to stay on. Tell you something?

This type of discrimination has got to stop. You don’t know how much money or experience this person has. People sometimes look super young, so do you even know how old they are? I shouldn’t have to have gray hair, wrinkles, etc. for you to attend, greet me, or take me seriously. I am tired of feeling like Julia Roberts in “Pretty Woman.”

However, I love when I can say to these Haverty, Unisys, stores and companies, BIG MISTAKE.

Pretty Woman Roberts l The Gray Hair Factor and Age Discrimination

  • reechard

    When I was 23, working in software, I refused to tell them my age for the reasons you give. I call it “reverse” age discrimination. P.S. Pete Cashmore admits to being 23….. and he’s done quite well.

  • http://reechard.vox.com/ reechard

    When I was 23, working in software, I refused to tell them my age for the reasons you give. I call it “reverse” age discrimination. P.S. Pete Cashmore admits to being 23….. and he's done quite well.

  • dcfemella

    But I wonder if Pete can go into a store and admit he is 23 and get good customer service. ;)

  • http://www.dcfemella.com/blog dcfemella

    But I wonder if Pete can go into a store and admit he is 23 and get good customer service. ;)

  • reechard

    Yes, but hasn’t customer service been in decline for a few decades now? I’m not saying it’s right, but it certainly seems pervasive. But I agree, age discrimination sucks. Have you tried looking *way* older on purpose to catch a discriminator red-handed? A great use for a hidden camera and killer story IMO

  • http://reechard.vox.com/ reechard

    Yes, but hasn't customer service been in decline for a few decades now? I'm not saying it's right, but it certainly seems pervasive.

    But I agree, age discrimination sucks. Have you tried looking *way* older on purpose to catch a discriminator red-handed? A great use for a hidden camera and killer story IMO

  • Cyndy

    It goes both ways. It’s not just you and other young looking people – older people deal with it too, whenever they go somewhere that is too cool for them. I’ve experienced age discrimination from the young perspective and realized that if I wanted to be taken seriously I needed to either dress older or less casually. Fortunately I have not yet experienced it from the gray hair end but I’ve seen those snooty kids that work at Starbucks be horribly mean to old people. I’ve been to clubs where I was the oldest and people looked at me funny. It’s no different. And the people who work in customer service these days seem to have no idea how to treat anybody with respect, no matter how young or old they look.

  • http://www.photo-cyn-thesis.blogspot.com Cyndy

    It goes both ways. It's not just you and other young looking people – older people deal with it too, whenever they go somewhere that is too cool for them. I've experienced age discrimination from the young perspective and realized that if I wanted to be taken seriously I needed to either dress older or less casually. Fortunately I have not yet experienced it from the gray hair end but I've seen those snooty kids that work at Starbucks be horribly mean to old people. I've been to clubs where I was the oldest and people looked at me funny. It's no different. And the people who work in customer service these days seem to have no idea how to treat anybody with respect, no matter how young or old they look.

  • dcfemella

    You know…that’s not such a bad idea! If I do, I will let you know.

  • http://www.dcfemella.com/blog dcfemella

    You know…that's not such a bad idea! If I do, I will let you know.

  • dcfemella

    You’re right. I just wish that people would stop being so judgmental and get over their perception of what a certain type of person should do, like, act, or have. Thanks for commenting!

  • http://www.dcfemella.com/blog dcfemella

    You're right. I just wish that people would stop being so judgmental and get over their perception of what a certain type of person should do, like, act, or have. Thanks for commenting!

  • Megan Giovanni

    Is there a way to prove this? So many companies do this kind of crap because we can’t prove it in the courts really. So every day they continually age discriminate (it’s called Ageism) and mock both younger and older generations of workers.

  • http://utilred.com Megan Giovanni

    Is there a way to prove this? So many companies do this kind of crap because we can't prove it in the courts really. So every day they continually age discriminate (it's called Ageism) and mock both younger and older generations of workers.

  • dcfemella

    The sad thing is you are right. There is no way to really prove this. Itssad that this type of discrimination often gets overlooked.

  • http://www.dcfemella.com/blog dcfemella

    The sad thing is you are right. There is no way to really prove this. Its
    sad that this type of discrimination often gets overlooked.

  • AcaiBurn

    This is reverse discrimination. Age is just a number, it doesnt have a huge bearing on anything.

  • http://www.my-acai-burn-story.com AcaiBurn

    This is reverse discrimination. Age is just a number, it doesnt have a huge bearing on anything.

  • dcfemella

    You are saying that people do not get discriminated due to being too youngor too old?

  • http://www.dcfemella.com/blog dcfemella

    You are saying that people do not get discriminated due to being too young
    or too old?

  • AcaiBurn

    Too young in this case. Its funny that if someone descriminates against a person who is old, then they are in big trouble, yet you can do the same thing to a young person and it just gets passed off.

  • http://www.my-acai-burn-story.com AcaiBurn

    Too young in this case. Its funny that if someone descriminates against a person who is old, then they are in big trouble, yet you can do the same thing to a young person and it just gets passed off.

  • AcaiBurn

    Too young in this case. Its funny that if someone descriminates against a person who is old, then they are in big trouble, yet you can do the same thing to a young person and it just gets passed off.

  • http://www.my-acai-burn-story.com AcaiBurn

    Too young in this case. Its funny that if someone descriminates against a person who is old, then they are in big trouble, yet you can do the same thing to a young person and it just gets passed off.

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